One of the hardest things in life is to accept the occurrences of thoughts which challenges your own perspective on who you are. I’ve not only realized that I have more of those thoughts than I believed earlier in my life, but I’ve also learned to accept many of them. This is in essence the idea behind accepting who you are, but that phrase is so much of a cliché that people just don’t pay attention to it.
The force within us which resists these thoughts can be described in one simple word: “Fear”. I wrote about fear as the main obstacle in life in an earlier blog, and this phenomena certainly falls into that category. We are afraid to accept thoughts which would throw us outside of our comfort zone. We should always strive to better our selves and make us as useful for this world as possible, and realizing these thoughts is an important aspect of that. I’m using the term “Realize” as these thoughts are most often subconsciously thrown away without the conscious you even knowing about them. But if you’re open to face them, and if you’re searching for them, then you will identify them and learn to grow stronger from realizing what they mean for you.
So why should we really try harder to accept these thoughts?
Because they represent the wisdom within your self to become who you really want to be in life, they represent the tools you need to fulfill your dreams. Because let’s face it, the less you listen to your own thought, the more you will listen to the thoughts of others; whether it’s your friend, a tv-show or a religion.
One thing we have to keep in mind is that the brains of humans are significantly different from person to person. One persons view on something might work very well for that person, but only work half assed for your self. Your brain just isn’t equipped to make use of that idea particularly well. This is why it’s so important to listen to your own thoughts and ideas above anything else, because they represent the most efficient thought pattern to tackle a situation or solve a problem for your brain. It’s of course equally important to realize that your thoughts and ideas might not be the most efficient thought pattern for other people.
My advice for anyone is to step outside of their comfort zone, accept those thoughts which would challenge the perception of one self and use them to achieve greatness. Ask your self if the person you are is the result of your most inner wishes, or if it’s the result of a lifetime of expectations from society, family and friends. If you don’t feel like it’s mostly a result of your most inner wishes then you should work on changing that perception.